How to build your child’s self-esteem? Here are the 8 best ways.

How to build your child's self-esteem Here are the 8 best ways.
How to build your child's self-esteem Here are the 8 best ways.

It is important to ensure your child has positive self-esteem and self-image. It is vital for their confidence and happiness. A negative self-image acquired in childhood can affect the child even in adulthood.

There’s a lot you can do to ensure your child’s self-esteem. Here are some of the best ways.

Best ways to build your child’s self-esteem

  1. Lead by example:

Children learn best through observation. They may ignore your teachings, but they often do what they see you doing. So, show them it is okay to be proud of themselves by being proud of yourself. Celebrate your achievements and strengths. Make it clear that you believe you can overcome your weaknesses, and do what you want to do. This will teach your children to be proud of their abilities, skills, and talents, and forgiving of their weaknesses.

  1. Praise your child:

Don’t forget to praise your child. Applaud their achievements and skills. If you give your child a task, then praise them for the job well done after they’re finished. Show your child that their positive acts merit positive praise. But be honest in your praise.

  1. Never compare:

Parents often get into the habit of comparing their child’s skills and abilities to some other child. This can have a serious effect on your kid and may lead to an inferiority complex. Every child is unique. Appreciate the talents of your children and be proud of them.

  1. Be a good listener:

When your kid tries to tell you something, listen patiently. This will make them feel that they are important to you. When your child is sad, angry, stressed, or depressed, communicate openly and calmly with them. If they have created a mess, help them out of it by judicious advice. But never judge or criticize. Suggest positive behaviors and options to solve their problem. And leave the door of communication open, assuring them they can come to you for help at any time.

  1. Let them try:

Your child may get interested in something that you consider too hard for them. But never tell them they won’t be able to do it. If it’s not dangerous, let them try. If they succeed, applaud them. And of they fail, assure them it was a tough task and they should be proud of themselves for even trying it. Being a parent, you do not want your child to feel disappointed and fail. But give them the freedom to choose. And be there to support them, motivate them, and comfort them with positivity if they fail.

  1. Teach your child the value of planning:

When children achieve a goal, it boosts their self-esteem. You can help them achieve their goals by teaching them the value of preparation, practice, and planning. Praise them and motivate them at every step. And show them how best to work towards their goals. This will increase their confidence not just in themselves but in you too.

  1. Help them recognize their strengths:

Your child may feel bad about some of their weakness. Divert their attention to their strengths. Teach them that all people are different and that if they are weak in one thing, they are stronger in something else. Encourage them to develop their strengths, instead of focusing on their weakness.

  1. Say, “I love you” every day:

Your children are precious to you. Make sure they know it. Tell them you love them at every opportunity. Say “I love you” to them every day. You may also tuck short, sweet notes in their lunchboxes or coat pockets, or send them a loving card in the mail. It will boost your children’s self-esteem and strengthen your bond with them.


Self-esteem is as important for a child as it is for an adult. Children are very sensitive and may easily get hurt and feel bad about themselves. Help them recognize their strengths and keep them feeling good about themselves. Lead by example and pamper them by praise and attention. These will do more good than buying them fancy presents.